Ever stopped to think about what ‘fine’ really means?

I’ve been thinking about it a lot.

I was fine. I was always fine. Everything in my life was fine. Except ‘fine’ meant business as usual. And business as usual? It was pretty shit.

‘Fine’ meant I had a job that paid well. ‘Fine’ meant I had friends, we hung out, we talked about how fine our lives were. ‘Fine’ meant I was going to the gym and eating okay and more or less getting enough sleep.

‘Fine’ meant I was I was stuck in a rut, going through the motions, doing the same thing day after day without really thinking about it. ‘Fine’ meant bored. Mediocre. Numb. Checked out. Stressed out. Depressed.

'Fine' meant I was living without ever stopping to think about if what I was doing was what I wanted (it wasn’t) and what I might want instead.

'Fine' meant I was vaguely assuming things would eventually sort themselves out and all I had to do in the meantime was endure.

Fuck fine.

I don’t want to spend my life feeling fine. I want to spend my life feeling alive.

You, too?

Already said yes?

Schedule your complimentary, no obligation consult!

We’ll spend some time together getting clear on what you want, what’s in the way, and what’s next. And even if we decide working together isn’t a perfect fit, you’ll leave with some clarity, resources and a sense of what to do next.

But how do I say fuck ‘fine’, and choose something different?

You’ve invested so much time and energy into the rut you’re finding yourself in. Without really thinking about it, you’ve built your whole identity around being the person who does what you do.

Everyone knows this is who you are.

And now… you want to be different.

Now, as well as feeling trapped in a rut, you have a headful of questions and no answers.

What am I doing with my life? 

How did I get here? 

What do I really want?

What the fuck?

What is the missing THING, that I can’t quite put my finger on? Vitality? Aliveness? The kind of magic that life used to hold, back when I was a kid who believed in fairy tales? When did I start feeling so numb? How do I start feeling alive again?

WHAT DO I DO NEXT?

You’re at a crossroads. A turning point.

Are you going to choose to stay in your comfortable rut, to turn away from the questions, distract yourself with Netflix or alcohol or a new relationship that feels exactly the same as all your other relationships, or another new job you don’t care about that gives you the illusion of progress?

Or are you going to choose something different? 

Are you going to ask the questions? Go in search of answers? Do what it takes to find the magic, to bring yourself back to life?

Are you going to create a life you want to live?

Are you going to start feeling better than ‘fine’?

It’s uncomfortable to ask the kinds of questions you’re asking. It’s uncomfortable to go in search of answers.

Specially when you’re fine, really, things aren’t so bad… there’s nothing wrongwith your life… it’s just… that nagging feeling that really? THIS is how you’re going to feel for the rest of your life? How many more years? 30? 40? 50? 60?

Don’t spend more years trying to talk yourself into believing you’re fine, life’s fine, everything’s fine.

YOUR LIFE COULD BE SO MUCH BETTER THAN FINE.

Could you figure this shit out by yourself? Yes, I believe you absolutely could. But seriously?

It’ll take longer, it’ll cost more, and it probably won’t be as fun. Our culture’s tendency to do life alone is probably partly what got you to being so ‘fine’ in the first place.

This is your invitation to do something different.

Invest in yourself and go look for your answers. Go find what makes you feel alive. Find what makes your life worth LIVING, not merely existing through, or worse, enduring.

Maybe you work with me, maybe you work with somebody else – that’s less important than the truth that we’re all getting older, and if you’re like me and have some hazy fairy tale belief that it’s all going to work out for the best in some far-off future – WHY would you leave that to chance? What if it doesn’t? What if you wake up in 40 years from now and nothing has changed?

This is your one life.

This crossroad you’re at – which road will you choose?

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood…
…I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

– Robert Frost

So, what do you get when you decide to work with me?

Your journey is unique and I don’t do one-size-fits all, so before we talk I can’t tell you exactly what working together will look like, or exactly how much it will cost. 

I CAN tell you that depending on what you need and want, you’re probably looking at between $150 – $1000 per month, and most people stick around for at least three months.

You get a time and a place and a guide. It’s a lot harder to put off starting if you have someone here waiting for you, who cares deeply about you, is fully invested in your success, and has a whole pile of tools to support you.

You get to realise that this kind of journey can be fun (really), and you have a whole bunch of allies in your corner, cheering you on.

You get to dismantle the effects that accumulated stress and years of the numbness of being ‘fine’ have had on your system. If you want to feel the magic of life again, you have to learn how to feel again.

You get to get a little nerdy, if that appeals to you – learn a little about WHY you’ve ended up where you are, and what you can do instead.

You get accountability, and you get support. You get deep care and respect.

If we decide to work together, we’ll mix and match the right journey for you, which will include some or all of the below:

60 minute 1:1 coaching calls

You can be absolutely anywhere there’s internet, because we’ll meet online. 

Personalised practices to work with between sessions  

To get the most out of your investment in our time together and to go deeper into what we cover in our sessions together, I’ll give you specific  tools, practices, guided audio recordings, PDF worksheets, creative exercises, meditations and other fun stuff to work with in between sessions.

Email support between sessions

Sometimes, you just need some extra love and that’s exactly what these emails are for. Sometimes you know you’re not going to get around to the in-between session stuff, unless you have accountability. Sometimes you have questions. Sometimes, it’s just nice to connect between sessions. That’s what extra email support is for.

And…

Free access to self-paced personal journeys and online courses I release while we’re working together, and discounted access to workshops if you happen to live nearby.

Ellen has a soft and calming nature and takes you on a beautiful journey of self discovery and for me, that has helped on my continuous path of self love. I felt completely comfortable and safe in her presence, when I was vulnerable with many strong mixed emotions that surfaced. I am very grateful for her time and patience, trust and honesty from our sessions together.

Juliet

Primary school teacher

Feeling a yes to exploring together? Awesome!

Here’s how to get started.

Step 1:

Schedule a complimentary, no-obligation consult. We’ll spend an hour together getting clear on what you want, what’s in the way, and what’s next. Even if we decide working together isn’t the right fit, you’ll leave with some clarity, resources and a sense of what to do next.

You can book a time to talk right here.

Step 2:

At the scheduled time of your consult, we’ll consult! We’ll use the opportunity to make sure we’re the perfect fit before you commit, as well as all the stuff I mentioned in Step 1 – finding clarity on direction, what might be stopping you, and what you might do next.

Step 3:

Then we’ll get started! If you decide to work with me, I’ll tell you the exact steps for getting started. If you decide not to work with me or if we aren’t a perfect fit, I’m happy to share other resources to help you get what you need.

Have questions? Email me: ellen@ellenmay.com.au

Want to talk about what's next for you?

We’ll spend an hour together getting clear on what you want, what’s in the way, and what’s next. And even if we decide working together isn’t a perfect fit for both of us, you’ll leave with some clarity, resources and a sense of what to do next.