Why we are the way we are.

When we’re small, we base our understanding of who we are and how we should behave by noticing the world around us. What do our family, society and culture expect from us? How do they behave? What do they reflect to us about ourselves?

We then take this unconscious blueprint with us through adolescence and into adulthood. We’re usually not taught to explore and question these beliefs and patterns, so we relate to them as the truth of who we are. This means our sense of ‘me’ comes from outside of us, instead of growing from within.

This can lead to a variety of challenges later in life. Poor self worth, feeling eternally ‘not good enough’ or ‘too much’, struggles in our relationships with family, friends, intimate partners, authority figures and ourselves. Feeling cut off from our creativity, our sexuality, our self expression. Finding it hard to know what we want, or to believe we can have it.

We might also have an awareness at a deep level of feeling out of place in one or more areas of our lives, of not feeling authentically ourselves, in a way that’s hard to define. We might find it hard to respond with flexibility to change or challenges we’re confronted with.

None of this is our fault.

It’s how we’ve learned to survive in the world - and it’s worked! You’re here reading these words (and I’m here writing them). But perhaps we’re ready for a different experience of life and of ourselves and the world.

It’s often hard to recognise the unconscious blueprint and stories we’ve internalised about ourselves. The work I do with clients helps to gently shine a light on some of these stories and the coping strategies and defence mechanisms we’ve developed that are very valid and important ways we’ve learned to survive in the world, that perhaps now are getting in the way of experiencing life that we’d like.

Together, in a gentle, creative and trauma informed way, we gently uncover some of the memories, perceptions and beliefs that form our current personal mythology created early in life from external input - our current unconscious blueprint - and start to unravel them and create space for new, supportive and life giving ways of being to start to form from within, leading to more resilience to navigate life’s changes and challenges, better relationships, a deeper connection to intuition, inner knowing and creativity, a sense of authenticity and fulfilment in life.

Bodies and nervous systems are wise things - they know how to heal and thrive when we give them the conditions they need to do so.

Want to book a free 30 minute consultation to talk with me about what this might look like for you?